Why did
G-d create the world?
Some
people believe, and it is written in some places also, that G-d created the
world because He is kind, and it is the nature of a kind Being to do kindness.
Most
people say that you get married because you found someone you love, so if you
love someone, you marry them. That is not true.
What
does it mean G-d created the world out of kindness? Where did kindness come
from? Chassidus says that on the first day of creation G-d created Kindness, on
the second day He created Strength and on the third day He created beauty.
So, if
on the first day G-d created kindness, why did He do it? Out of kindness? Did
He create kindness out of kindness? That doesnt make sense. G-d created the
world because He wants you. He wants to become one with you. That is the desire
for a dwelling place in this world for G-d. He wants to be one with you.
To make
it possible, to help you become one, G-d created six things: Kindness,
Strength, Beauty, Victory, Splendor and Foundation. In other words, in order to
have you, He created Kindness. In order to have you, He created Strength and in
order to have you He created Beauty.
You
were not created because of His kindness. He created Kindness for you. The
essence of kindness is love, which means that on the first day, G-d created
love. Love is one of the ways that two can become one. What does He want? He
wants you, not love. He created love for you.
Thats
why Rosh Hashanah is a very exciting and intense holiday. You dont sing and
dance but it is very exciting. Rosh Hashanah means G-d wants you. He didnt
even create kindness yet. The beginning of the year, the beginning of creation
is
He wants you. If you need kindness, He creates kindness, if you need love,
He creates love.
So look
at the difference. In the first opinion you are created for love
because He
loves, He creates you. Because He is kind, he creates you. So you are the
product of kindness. In order for Him to be kind, He creates you.
Chassidus
says the opposite. Not, you were created for love
love was created for you.
Because He wants you and for that you need love
fine, I ll create love.
This is
what marriage means. Marriage means there is someone special who you are going
to become one with forever. Will it help to have love? Fine, so have love. You
dont feel it, create it, invent it, find it, borrow it
whats the difference?
Get some, why? Because the person you are one with deserved it. You need mercy
and you have to have compassion for the person you are married to, so create
compassion.
Its a
very romantic idea
a man says to a woman, I want to marry you and whatever it
takes to make you happy, I will do. If you need love, I will invent love. If
you need kindness I will become kind. I will become, and do, and have, whatever
you need. But what I want, is you. That is called the Essential Connection. I
want you. I, the essence of me, wants you. What part of you? No part, but you,
the essence of you.
If love
comes first and you are the product of love
then if the love goes away you are
completely unnecessary.
Thats
what is wrong with the whole idea of dating and socializing, creating
friendships and connections. You become the victim of emotion. I like you, so were
friends. I dont like you anymore so youre garbage. Why, because, I am not
looking for you, I am looking for love. As long as I love you you are the most
important thing in the world. If I dont love you, youre garbage. This is not
Kosher. Its not nice to let it happen to you and its not nice to do it to
someone else.
So,
lets get this straight. Love is created for people
people are not the victims
of love. G-d did not create us because He wants to have love and we are his
experiment. No! He wants us. You need love
so you create some. If you didnt
need love, He wouldnt create it. He doesnt need it, He needs you!
That is
an amazingly powerful statement!
